Monday, January 19, 2009

Too Busy or Not Busy Enough?

I have noticed that many of my clients say they cannot attend to themselves properly as they are “too busy” to give themselves the time and attention they need. Other clients say that because they are not “busy enough” they fight boredom and do so by using food to fill their time and their emptiness. Interesting isn’t it that we each can blame our circumstances for our failure to give ourselves personal attention.

So, what is “too busy” and what is “not busy enough?” There really is not right answer to this question because the answer is different for each of us. The commonality is the tendency to blame “out” when we fail to care for ourselves instead of looking within to figure out what we need/want to have be different. It is an inside job!

This is hard for some people who prefer to cast blame on circumstances and shirk the responsibilities of self care. These folks are likely to give up and proclaim that if their life were different they could then fit in time for themselves. These folks are in denial I’m afraid. No life is perfectly balanced at all times. Sometimes we may be over-busy and then have a little too much free time at others.

It is up to you to take the reins of your day into your own hands and make yourself absolutely top priority. There will never be the perfectly balanced day so it is up to you to make your self care number one top priority no matter if you are racing around over-busy or sitting idly in front of the television with a bag of chips.

As a friend recently said, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.” That says it all! I encourage you to look at your lifestyle and to build in the best possible times to care for yourself. This will end emotional eating most of the time and you will have more energy and balance.

By the way, this month Real Simple Magazine has an interview with me about emotional eating. And did you catch the article in Spa Magazine in the Sept/Oct issue?

Meanwhile, I wish you my very best!

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